Asking for help requires you to actually ASK. And for some reason, to me, asking for help meant I needed help, and needing help meant I failed. I remember one particular moment after I had Lincoln. I was probably about 5 days postpartum and my husband was going to go into work for a half-day. I was literally petrified. A dozen thoughts shot through my mind, most revolving around "I'm going to be alone with this baby, what do I do if [insert scariest thoughts ever] happens?" Doubt affects everyone. You can be the most confident parent, the most on-top-of-it person, but you can still worry. This was me. I was a first time mom, but I knew what I was doing. It was just this thought of being alone.
I struggled that day to ask him to stay home with me. I didn't have a tangible reason to want him to stay home, but I needed him to stay home. It was a tennis match in my head of figuring out how to ask for help and then convincing myself I didn't need it. Chris was getting ready to leave, and I remember breaking down completely, hysterical cries while the baby was sleeping on my chest, begging him not to go to work. Instead of asking him to stay, it got to the point where I was broken down and weak and just sobbed for it. It shouldn't have to get to that point for a mom to ask for a hand.
This may seem like a no-brainer, but sometimes when you're in the thick of it, the world around you blurs. I rarely got outside when Lincoln was an infant (September baby problems), but with Layla, I find that she really enjoys grounding herself. Instead of immediately grabbing a blanket to lay out, put your little one on their tummy and let them explore the grass. Spoiler: grass and dirt don't hurt a baby! Myself or Lincoln like to lay in front of her so she has someone to look at and talk to.
This activity is especially fun if your child is learning animal sounds or animal names. I love emergent subjects and this is something Lincoln was really interested in. He loves animals. I put him in his seat with only paper and let him choose 2 different animals from his toy bin. Of course, we ended up using 4. Because art is a way to express himself, I rarely say no when he makes a request. I put some "puddles" of paint on the paper and then he got to stomp his animals through the paint and across the page. One way to deepen learning is to ask prompts along the way. Here are some great ideas to get your toddler thinking...